Who Am I?!
by Kym on May 26, 2007
I’m feeling kind of shallow today. Thinking more about what colour I should paint my toenails than about what I should do to make this a happy home for my kids, blah blah blah.
Toe nail colour matters too, right?
Having had three bowls of Corn Pops for breakfast this morning, I’ve recommitted, again, to losing weight. I really don’t enjoy looking at pictures of myself and realizing that at the oh so mature age of 28 (ha), I’ve yet to lose my “baby fat”.
And the hair? Haven’t had it cut since…mmm…December. Unless you count the hack job I did on my bangs a few months ago. I think I’m about due.
What do you think? Bangs or no bangs? Should I keep the long layered look and keep growing it out? Or should I hack it all off and start from scratch? Seriously. I’m clueless about hair.
Yes, and about a lot of other things too. But it’s not nice to come right out and say so, you know.
Any men reading this who haven’t been put off by the hair talk, you might want to wander off now. Right. Just us girls, right?
So I had a nice long soak in the tub last night. And shaved my legs. With an actual razor. Not the electric shaver I usually use (which does a nice enough job but with smoothness hugely lacking). After I climbed into bed I savoured that lovely feeling of rubbing my smooth legs against each other. So…so feminine feeling!
And I had this sudden desire to do something else really girly, to keep perpetuating that feeling. I pondered a great deal about what I was experiencing. I’ve always been one to shun the “silliness” of coiffing and preening in front of the mirror. I’ve never bothered with filing my nails, or curling my hair. Heck, I don’t even blow dry it, normally. I shave my legs only when I consider it necessary, and get my hair cut on a bi-yearly basis.
Suffice it to say, I’m not a girly-girl. I think I’m starting to have…umm…yearnings, in that direction though. I want to feel like…like a girl. Feminine and pretty. I like feeling that way. And I feel guilty about it, like I’m betraying principles I don’t even remember adopting.
I’m confused. In the throes of yet another identity crisis.
15 comments
As a conflicted girly-girl, I say, if you have given birth, you’re girl enough.
I love smooth legs, but I also like the totally grown out fuzzy feeling I cultivate in the winter.
My feet are getting some big time summer attention today, too.
Why not go short, like me?? It seriously takes 5 minutes from wet to done.
by Elizabeth-W on May 26, 2007 at 6:00 pm. #
I was very much a tom boy growing up. Loved playing sports, hated wearing bras, was friends with mostly guys, etc. Who wanted to talk about lipstick and being twitterpated?
With that said, though, the older I am getting the more I am wanting to at least get in touch with my feminine side. I want to feel cute.
Getting a fun haircut always helps me. I am the type who actually will spend a few extra dollars to go to a salon I really trust so I can just have them tell me what looks good. Of course I have a few stipulations. I still need to pull my hair back for exercise, I need to be able to recreate the look and if I don’t feel like doing anything to my hair on certain days I still want it to look decent.
Of course I also don’t want to have to blow dry my hair every day or put a gazillion products in it. Spending lots of time in the bathroom shouldn’t equate to how I feel about myself. It will definitely help to spend a little bit of time, but inner confidence comes from other places, too.
Just remember, we all love you :) !!
by An Ordinary Mom on May 26, 2007 at 7:02 pm. #
I think your hair looks totally cute. Maybe just a trim to re-from and re-shape it :)
I am with EW, this summer is the time for feet, what about a pedicure?
My toenails are still painted black. I was going to paint them some other nice spring color, but you know, nah, black they are.
by No Cool Story on May 26, 2007 at 7:26 pm. #
you’re hilarious. but i think your hair is cute the way it is. a haircut always is good to freshen things up, especially if it’s been since december. have you ever done one length? no layers? b/c i think your length is perfect for your face shape but maybe you could try growing out the layers. that’s my advice, but i have no idea what your hair texture and thickness is like. so it’s probably not very good advice.
by aubrey on May 26, 2007 at 11:28 pm. #
I’d love to be a girly girl, problem is I don’t have a clue what I am doing! Since I have been going to the gym and am starting to feel better about myself and my body I have spent a little more time on me. Being more particular about makeup and hair and other details that were less important before. It is nice to feel good about yourself and how you look. I am happier and have more confidence when I can look at myself and think, “hmmm, not bad”.
I guess what I am trying to say is don’t feel guilty for pampering yourself and doing what feels good!
by Amanda on May 27, 2007 at 2:51 am. #
Ya know, I think we all have those days – moments- when we’re girlie girls and days when we barely manage to brush our teeth, let alone care what we look like when we look in the mirror as we pass by on our way to use the potty (with an audience of course). When you feel the desire to do something fun for yourself, then do it. That doesn’t mean you have to do it tomorrow or the next day, just do it the next time the feeling visits.
Personally, I want my children to remember me as a woman who took care of herself. I want them all to have memories of what Mommy smelled like or what the bathroom smelled like after I finished my primping for the day.
Primping doesn’t mean an two hours or even a 1/2 hour in the bathroom. It could simply mean a certain smelly lotion and spray that you take 2 minutes to apply each day after your shower (if you make it there). For myself, once I’m out of the shower, I can be ready to walk out the door in about 15 minutes, that includes blowdrying my hair and putting on eyeliner, blush, and lipstick (that’s it for the makeup – no base or anything else). Of course I always get interupted by someone needing something, so it inevitably turns into a much longer ordeal.
Okay, I’ll shut up now!
by Grace on May 27, 2007 at 2:20 pm. #
Hey, I think you should wait until you get here and we should go together! I need a re-do seriously!
Love to you. Can’t wait for the 23rd!
by Dedee on May 27, 2007 at 3:46 pm. #
Look at all these great comments! So many good thoughts.
I was surprised to read that you are not a girly girl and that you normally don’t curl or blow dry your hair. You were particularly feminine and pretty the day I met you.
I can tell that your girls are getting a little older and maybe making strides toward more indepence. It gives mom time to actually think about “toe nail colour”. Don’t feel guilty. You deserve to look and feel pretty. Was it Brigham Young who said, “Even an old barn looks better with a little paint on it,”?
by Annie on May 28, 2007 at 1:04 am. #
I’m SO not a girly-girl either, but lately I’ve found myself liking (gasp!) PINK of all things! I’ve never liked pink, but just lately it seems really cool. But I’m still not getting a tiny dog.
by Tori :) on May 28, 2007 at 5:55 am. #
I think you’re hot.
by That Chick Over There on May 28, 2007 at 1:15 pm. #
Awesome comments gal! Thanks for the insights. Still undecided on the hair. I think I might just go in and tell the hairdresser to have fun with it. =P
by Kimberly on May 28, 2007 at 4:13 pm. #
ah kimberly: i like you the way you are, cutie! but i also like the idea of letting the hairdresser have at ya. ~best, kathleen :)
by so grateful to be Mormon! on May 29, 2007 at 4:22 am. #
I like the way you look! Long layers are very in now and they flatter your face! I’d say keep it!
by eve on May 31, 2007 at 5:25 am. #
kimberly: and your eyebrows look perfect. you do NOT have a monobrow like you told me you did! :) kathleen
by so grateful to be Mormon! on June 1, 2007 at 3:21 am. #
hi kimmy: thanks for the cute email. glad you got the good mail.
anytime you need a mood enhancement (i said mood, not breast ha ha), just rip out your xena card and play the battlecry. mine just totally cracks me up, makes me at least smile everytime i play it. cool how emma is trying to steal it from ya.
happy day to ya, kathleen :)
by so grateful to be Mormon! on June 1, 2007 at 2:50 pm. #