Oh How They Redeem Themselves
by Kym on August 24, 2007
I am married to a notoriously unsympathetic man. I’ve actually been in the midst of a serious dizzy spell, clutching at the wall for support, and had him give me a skeptical look and voice aloud his opinion that it’s all in my head.
Which really? Is an accurate diagnosis, considering that’s where the spinning seemed to be originating. Still. A wee bit of a pity please? A murmur of condolence? A pat on the back?
So today, there were two startling incidents that made me wonder if “Invasion of the Body Snatchers” was playing out in my very own home.
Neil: How was your day, sweetheart?
Kim: A bit rough, but a happy day regardless.
Neil: Why rough?
Kim: Haven’t been feeling very well. Bit shaky and dizzy.
Neil: Awww…I’m sorry sweetheart (as he walks into the other room).
Kim: (calls after him) Now that was the right response!
Neil: (infuriatingly) I know. That’s why I said it.
An hour or two later…Kim is scrubbing the kitchen table…pauses to clutch at her head…
Neil: What’s wrong?
Kim: Oh nothing, just having trouble staying conscious.
Neil: (in a concerned tone!) Why don’t you rest? (bless him!)
Kim: Because once I start resting I know I won’t stop (wan smile).
Neil: (quick hug) Well, don’t over do it.
Kim: (smiles and finishes scrubbing the table, tidying up the playdough mess, turning down the beds, cleaning up the aftermath from the girls’ baths, tidying the living room, and doing the dishes)
It’s amazing what heights a little love and encouragement can lift us to. I’ll have to remember that.
15 comments
You’re right, it makes such a difference!!!
by Lei on August 24, 2007 at 2:32 am. #
That dizzy stuff isn’t necessarily in your head! I know this because I’ve gotten little dizzy spells my whole life and always thought they meant nothing until yesterday I got one and full on fainted in a public place and got carried away in an ambulance! So give your husband a lecture and stuff! :-)
by k on August 24, 2007 at 2:45 am. #
Validation, that is all we ask :) !!
by An Ordinary Mom on August 24, 2007 at 3:14 am. #
romance in the marriage. gotta love it (and yes you men out there, picking dirty socks off the floor is sexy)
by Jean Knee on August 24, 2007 at 3:59 am. #
Come see the Reflections Award I gave you :) !!
by An Ordinary Mom on August 24, 2007 at 4:16 am. #
Glad he came through for you!
by Lisa on August 24, 2007 at 4:16 am. #
At least you got some sympathy… I would have tossed him the rag and said “Yeah, I don’t feel well… would you finish up, please?” :)
I hope you get feeling better… I hate that dizzy feeling. I get it on occassion… usually after I’ve eaten peanut M&M’s for every meal.
by Melissa on August 24, 2007 at 4:24 am. #
They don’t like to be too predictable, those men folks.
by Heffalump on August 24, 2007 at 7:10 am. #
Hmmmm… small improvements are better than nothing, right? Hope your head feels better…
by Tracey on August 24, 2007 at 12:51 pm. #
I am Neil and you are Sean. :)
by Laine on August 24, 2007 at 12:55 pm. #
A little validation goes a long long way. Hope you are feeling better soon. Hang in there if only but a fingernail or two.
by Tonya on August 24, 2007 at 2:16 pm. #
Next time he tries to not be sympathetic about dizziness come over here. I’ll show you how I sob hysterically when my husband forgets to be sympathetic about it.
by M on August 24, 2007 at 3:36 pm. #
Lol! Sounds much like my hubby. But I have softened him as the years have gone by. He is much better at sympathy and listening to me these days. Though of course he’s still got a ways to go. :)
by Summer on August 25, 2007 at 1:04 am. #
Don’t over do it?
I have no idea what that means.
by Dapoppins on August 25, 2007 at 1:23 am. #
kimmy: that was cute how he said it was all in your head and you wrote about how that is where it is. i never really thought about it till i read your words. made me snicker a little.
you’re a riot, even when you are being a baby (smile) and seeking love and validation.
you’re awesome, you know that, don’t you? you always make me smile, kathleen
by so grateful to be Mormon! on August 28, 2007 at 1:59 am. #