I’m really insufferable sometimes. No really, I am. When I’m miserable getting me to talk is as difficult as forming macrame-like creations out of wet noodles, but when I’m happy? Good luck getting me to shut up about it. I burble, babble, gibble, and gab. I sometimes even bounce.
It’s very disturbing.
The worst of it is the advice dispensing. I am an advice dispensing MACHINE. And we all know how annoying the advice givers in our lives are, don’t we? There comes a point when you just want to gouge their eyes out or duct tape their mouth or…well, yes. Being given advice doesn’t exactly rate on most people’s top ten favourite things to do. But I? Cannot seem to stop. And all the while the semi-sane part of me is screaming at myself to shut it already.
I figured something out this week though. I don’t give advice when I’m miserable. When I’m happy though, oh, I just want to drag everyone right on up with me. And when I’m happy I have more time for clear minded thinking. Funny thing, for me anyway misery makes for some pretty irrational sulking. It’s when I’m happy that the epiphanies start flowing in. And I just can’t help but want to share.
I can look at a friend’s life and, as if it’s been illuminated with bright yellow highlighter, I can see the source of their current angst, and think how to fix it. I feel BRILLIANT in such moments, and proudly share my observations, all the while knowing how incredibly annoying I’m being. In such moments, it doesn’t for an instant occur to me that I might be dead wrong. I’m too busy being a genius, don’t'cha know.
It’s maddening, really.
I don’t know if putting the problem into words will help me conquer it, but I can’t help having a little giggle over the thought of a friend maybe someday taking me aside and giving me some unsolicited advice along the lines of, “Kim. Just shush up already. We know you’re happy. We know that’s a big deal for you. But we’ll be happy when we’re good and ready, all right?”
I wonder how well I’d take it if someone did . . .
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Oh, you are a dork, but that doesn’t make you any less love-able!
So my advice for the day is to stand on your head, pick your nose, and sing “The Star Spangled Banner” (Cuz I know that as a Canadian, you have it memorized backwards).
:)
Love you!
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Haha, nothing wrong with a good bounce when you’re happy ;)
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You make me laugh! xoxoxo
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You know, I struggle allowing people to be happy when they want to. And the happy bounce? Why not?!
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Oh my gosh! I thought I was the only one who literally bounced around when giddy with joy. I squeal too. I’m sure I look ridiculous but somehow hubby thinks it’s cute when I’m a giddy, bouncy chatter box of happiness.
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Great post! When something good happens to me, I have to think hard about who I can tell and who won’t be annoyed with my giddiness ;)
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I love how you say you are an advice dispensing machine. So funny! The question is: when you are miserable, do you accept advice? Or do you shove everyone away?
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The bright yellow highlighter is handy, but we don’t always use it on our own lives – because we don’t step away and take the umbrella view of our own existence often enough.
I do this too. When I’m happy, I just figure I have so much knowledge that will enrich other people’s lives and make them happy too. I annoy myself. :)
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Feel free to give me all the advice you want. Srsly. And then I can lecture you. And we’ll both be happy.
Here’s what I think is great about you and why I love reading your blog: you’re real. You tell it how it is and you are the most self-aware person I know. And that includes both the good and the bad!
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Can I just say, I so agree with Amber. You are real. I love how you look at yourself and tell us about the good stuff and the not-so-good stuff and you share what you’re thinking and we all love you for that.
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Stand in line, Babe. I totally do that too. But honestly, who doesn’t want to be dragged into happiness? It beats the heck out of being dragged into despair.
You are lovely. And your quirks make you all the lovelier.
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Well at least you want to drag people UP with you and not down when you are miserable!
You’re a fixer. I’m a fixer too and it is so hard not to fix.
I don’t mean to meddle. I just want to make it better. I know what you mean.
Self control. Self control. Self control.
Grrrr.
PS Over from David’s. Congrats on POTD.
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when we are happy all our faculties are energetic so we want to advice people but when we are in one of our gloomy moods then our gloominess shadows our advice giving traits.
even i love giving advice as it doesnt cost any thing and gives me the satisfaction that i helped some one . that is a different thing whether they pay any heed to my pearls of wisdom
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Really, though – aren’t you glad you share your good moods rather than your foul ones? I might tend to spread around the muck more than the shiny-happy moments. But maybe not…
You do good work.
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Ah… I don’t think people mind as much as you think they do!! I think people don’t mind hearing new thoughts and ideas… I know that I don’t!!
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There is not enough happiness in the world and certainly not enough bouncing. You got a mention for POTD so congrats for that…off you go…bounce away!
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Kim, you be nice to you or I’ll trek it to Canada and whomp you silly! You’re wonderful! Just simply W-O-N-D-E-R-F-U-L! I love you just the way you are. And you know what? It takes a caring person to listen to someone’s worries and try to help them out. You listen and you try to help because you’re loving and awesome like that. Just be you because I loves you just the way you are! (with the song and everything!)
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I do not bounce, but I am a horrible giver of unsolicited advice. I think I should have been Dear Abby. My siblings hardly want to verbalize any kind of struggle they are having since they know I will gush an unending supply of annoying wisdom. I really need to stop that.
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You can bounce and advice your way down to my place any time you feel the urge :) !! Your happiness is contagious, even through your blog. Keep it coming :) !!
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I second Ordinary Mom’s comment. I like your advice. Maybe Oprah could pass the torch to you. Or what about that Ann Landers lady? Seriously, I love hearing your thoughts. =)
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Hahahaha. The only Kim I’ve met in person was Bouncy Kim. I love it. And I totally do the same thing — I KNOW I’m being annoying, but I do it anyway. Hahaha. Maybe we can be partners in Annoying Bouncing Advice Givers. We could have our own reality show. It would be so awesome.
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