Jul 01 2009
Lesson Learned
Normally when I learn something, I go on and on about it here. I give a bit of background, I ramble, I theorize. I even get downright poetic at times. Today, I’m taking a pass on my usual motif and am going for short and to the point.
Why? Because it was Canada Day today and I spent the day celebrating my country’s birthday instead of making half-hearted attempts at housework. I have a friend coming for a playdate tomorrow and my parents arriving Friday night to spend the weekend. Somehow, taking one day off has yielded a mess of hurricane like proportions and something’s gotta give. In this case - the blogging.
So here’s what I realized today. Whining does not equate to sympathy and my husband likes and respects me more when I attempt to handle life’s curve balls with something like grace. In fact, the level of affection in our home seems to go up in proportion to the level of whining going down.
My quest to be an object of pity has now been willfully cast aside. I’ve decided I’d rather be liked than pitied.
Sadly, this is a big deal.
Were he truly cognizant of the effect blogging has had on my level of self-awareness I’m sure Neil would write my blog a thank you note.
Neil? You’re very welcome.
I like your choosing being liked over being pitied. A good lesson learned. I am still amazed at how revealing blogging has been for me. I am finding out things about myself that I kind of knew before I started writing, but now I know for sure. I appreciate your vulnerability here, which I wouldn’t call whining at all, but openness.
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I just plain old admire you.
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So good, Kim. Pity is like buttered popcorn - it feels so good going down, but it doesn’t last, and when you get too much it makes you a little sick and ashamed. (*Projecting!*)
And when all that work is done and your house is beautiful and your kiddies are sleeping and your guests are gone, there’s always a nap. Mmm, better than popcorn.
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I love you.
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Such huge revelations are almost scary in their simplicity sometimes, aren’t they?
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This? “Whining does not equate to sympathy and my husband likes and respects me more when I attempt to handle life’s curve balls with something like grace. In fact, the level of affection in our home seems to go up in proportion to the level of whining going down.” should be a relief society lesson!
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admiration is better then pitty!!
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Jeffrey R. Holland said that “no misfortune is so bad that whining about it won’t make it worse.” Isn’t it true? Knowing that doesn’t always keep me from whining all the time (I guess we are all human) but it it a good reminder when I remember it.
Good luck with the preparations for the weekend!
I love that Holland quote.
On that note, I shall go make dinner!
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Does this mean you’re leaving us? I love you, Kim! Don’t leave me!
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Yep, I’ve found whining never gets me anywhere. Especially since I’ve had kids. It makes me want to give in to them even less.
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That’s a good job blog.
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Good for you Kym!! I bet he would definitely write it a thank you note. Probably even give it flowers ;)
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You said it all very well!
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